The
Etiquette Of Oral Sex
Oral
sex, for both men and women is
becoming an increasingly popular
form of sexual play, either as
foreplay or the main course.
However, as this type of subject is
not generally covered by any of the
etiquette books (either old or new)
then read on for a bit of Oral Sex
Etiquette.
Firstly (and
second, third and many more) you
must be clean. This applies to both
men and women. Having or giving oral
sex is more intimate than kissing,
and we all know the horrors of
kissing somebody that has got bad
breath. If you have ever been a bit
worried about your partners hygiene,
suggest a shower or a bath together.
Done the right way there is no
reason why you cannot clean your
partner's sexual areas yourself - it
is both sexy, and a guarantee of
cleanliness.
Next, do we
trim, or don't we? Personally I am
not keen on bushy hair around the
base of a penis, but then I am not
keen on the woolly look on women
either. It is a matter of personal
taste however, and if you don't mind
catching pubic hair in your teeth,
well that is your business. A bit of
a trim, (if you are not into shaving
that rather delicate area) won't
hurt. Some men prefer shaven pubic areas,
but unless you are into discussing
areas of sexual likes and dislikes
you won't know. For women, if you
find your partner's hair is too
bushy, use your fingers around the
base of his penis, to help keep the
hair down and out of your way. As
men seem to enjoy paying attention
to a women's clitoris, they are able
to hold the hair away as they are
separating the labia with their
fingers.
Finally,
technique. As in so many aspects of
sex, different people like different
things - you can only find these
things out by trying and talking
about it. But if you are wanting to
do this for the first time to your
partner, just follow these few
guidelines. Don't
lunge in - take your time to reach
the area you intend to finish up
with, kiss and caress around the
body first, working towards the
genital regions, and then approach
it gently. Don't dive in and
frighten your partner, it is very
unarousing. In both men and women,
if you take your time to work
towards the genitals, they will
guide you with their actions, to
where it will mean the most to them.
Don't
bite. Oral sex involves extensive
use of the tongue and mouth cavity,
but it usually does not involve the
teeth. While I do realize that there
are some men and women out there
that like rough stuff, unless you
know this in advance, keep your
teeth to yourself. It would take an
extreme type of person that would
appreciate their penis or clitoris
bitten in the middle of a sex act.
Use the tongue, it is an amazing
muscle.
For
women, treat the penis a bit like a
lolly-pop. Using your fingers to
support the penis upright from the
body, gently lick up and down,
remembering to circle the tip with
your tongue every now and then. Some
women do not enjoy actually taking
the penis in the mouth, but you
don't have to deep throat somebody. Even
just circling the head of the penis
with your mouth (moving the tongue
all the time) and encasing the rest
of it in your hands, can be
extremely erotic.
throat. If she gets a gag reflex, she is likely to bite, and
that could be very off putting.
And for the
last word, climax. It really is a
good idea for both men and women,
but in particular men, to advise
when they are reaching climax.
Taking sperm in your mouth is an
individual taste thing, as is
climaxing over face, breasts, or
body. Women you do not have to
swallow it, apparently sperm is very
good for the skin. So allow it to
flow over you, if you don't like the
taste, and treat him to the sight of
your rubbing it into yourself as he
lays there in the afterglow.
As with all
forms of sexual contact, talking and
practice is the key. If you have fun
with your partner in the bedroom,
you won't go far wrong.
Have
fun! |
